I remember the first time I heard the phrase, “The woman’s always right” and thinking to my self, “how can it be possible to be right 100 percent of the time?” As men, we are constantly being told that if we want to have peace in our relationship we must allow our significant other to be “right” as we passively forfeit our voice. How is it that this phrase became so popular and why is it that men are so willing to follow this expression?
If She’s Happy Then I’m Happy.
As men we think that if we are always “wrong” it is somehow a noble sacrifice. Happiness in a relationship is not made at the expense of the other. Happiness is created when each partner has an equal voice, two-way communication, and feelings that are equally validated.
It’s Easier to Say, “You’re always right” Than It Is To Say, “I feel…”
In our society men are bashed for showing emotion and this stigma is carried into our personal relationships. We prefer to sit silently than attempt to share our genuine feelings. When men submissively dismiss their feelings with the phrase “The woman’s always right” it is perpetuating the message that men’s feelings are not important in the relationship. This suppression results in apathy and can greatly limit men’s participation in significant relationship decisions.
It’s Not About Being Right
A relationship that tracks who is right and wrong is destined for failure. Couples find much greater satisfaction in being able to work together and collaborate to meet each other’s needs. It’s too easy to just say, “The woman’s always right” and much more difficult to actively listen, communicate, and participate in the relationship.
Good article. Good communication from men is very important as you eloquently pointed out. I think a lot of men would benefit by putting this into practice