Yes, I am one of those people that grew up in Sunday school singing bible songs. You know, the ones that you sing over and over as a child and don’t realize the meaning until you’re reminiscing as an adult. At the time I am sure I just liked the melody of the song, but the words “Be careful little lips what you say” have never been truer in my life than they are right now. How is it that we can say the most hurtful things with the same mouth we use to say, “I love you”?
You Can’t Take Back Your Words
Have you ever said something to your partner that you regretted? If not, please let me know your secret. I have said words that I wish I could take back and there have been times when I did not handle situations the way I wish I would have. Words are not just sticks and stones; they’re much more lasting.
Unlike purchases, you never get your words back. Once they have left our mouths they are non-refundable, therefore it’s important for us to be cautious and intentional with our words.
Words Can Scar
The reason we need to be careful about what we say in our relationship is because words can leave lasting wounds that may create additional issues. Words matter the most when they come from those who matter most.
In our relationships, our partner is the one that we trust, share our deepest secrets, and become extremely vulnerable with. Whenever we put them down, threaten the security of the relationship, or use any type of harmful language, it shakes the very foundation of our relationships.
Words Can Heal
Just as our lips can be destructive, they can also have the same lasting effect in a positive way. When my fiancé says something to me, I believe her. I believe her because she is someone that I trust, respect, and love.
In the same way that her words can break me, they can also lift me up. For this very reason, I make it a point to tell her that I love her and that she’s beautiful every day. I know she does not need me to tell her this, but my hope is that she will never have to doubt that she is beautiful and loved. Being impeccable with your words is not easy and I have made many mistakes in the past, but I am learning one day at a time… one word at a time.
